Not listening is a common response to experiences that make us feel uncomfortable or are too painful to imagine.
You may not want to listen to others because if you acknowledged their experiences or actions to be true, you would have to rethink your own life.
Allowing someone to enter your personal world by listening carefully and deeply to how you may have hurt them means that you would have to recognize and acknowledge that you did something hurtful to that other person.
In the same way you may want to avoid pain by avoiding listening to that other person, you may also want to avoid listening to your own Self about how you perceived a situation, because it would mean connecting back with the pain of what happened to you, which may differ from the other person’s story.
✨ This is a quick note to remind you: your story is valid.
We all avoid pain, in a first instance. It takes great courage to work through that pain towards understanding.
There is more waiting for you as a result of listening deeply and working on your healing journey: it may uncover false stories that you have lived by, it may result in liberation from the past, and in the possibility of seeing the future under a different light.
If you have gone through something that was too much to process, if it in any way injured or harmed you, if it somehow shaped you, you may have experienced trauma.
And maybe as a result of having experienced trauma, you may have inflicted trauma upon someone else.
Healing trauma is deep work, but it is possible.
If this resonates with you, read more about my Soul Trauma Healing program
~ L, xx.