“The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.” ~Viktor E. Frankl.
While growing up, you started understanding that reality is not what you imagined in childhood: you were not born into a well-structured world, rather to play a central role in constituting that world; your own, unique reality.
You may have been constituting your world as if it had an independent existence from that of those around you. Who holds you safely while you do this? Your thoughts say das nichts, niente, nada.
Feeling this nothingness can be scary. When you were a child, having adults around you gave you safety. When you become the adult, you have to face nothingness at the center of your existence, which may result in deep anxiety.
This is how you started to experience freedom, realizing you are the one responsible for providing form and meaning to your world.
The good news is: you are the author of yourself and your reality. Through your thoughts, emotions, actions, and non-actions, you are creating what you know. Can you see the opportunity in that?
With freedom comes responsibility...
As long as you believe your situation is the result of some other out there, that your problems are someone else’s fault —someone or something you can’t control— you will fail to acknowledge your freedom as a resource.
If instead you start observing your own role in any sequence of events, the part that is your responsibility, then freedom can be a very important resource in your journey.
You can choose your attitude in any given set of circumstances, and that freedom of choice is an amazing gift, based on which you are creating your reality.
Whichever problem you face today, remember you have the opportunity to make a decision:
♟ will you submit to the power of those around you, giving away your freedom, becoming the plaything of circumstance, renouncing the dignity of living up to your choices?
♟ or will you answer for your own life by being responsible and following what you deep down know is best for you, even if you fear suffering?
What will it be?