Sometimes it can be really hard to say no —do it anyways (yes, you can).
Healthy boundaries define what is appropriate behavior in our relationships. They are meant for you to feel safe.
🌸 If you are here, maybe you are a kind, gentle, supporting soul who loves to help. And maybe, you’ve met someone who wasn’t as kind and thoughtful as you. Or someone with whom you felt like you had to compensate for their behavior, to keep the peace, to be of help. Or maybe always being the one who puts others first, has you feeling tired or extenuated, because once again you have asked too much of yourself.
Whenever you submit yourself to the wishes and demands of others, most likely seeking validation, you interrupt the flow of your will and with it, you stop fulfilling your purpose in life. And that is not why you came here.
👉🏻 Every one of your choices comes with an opportunity cost. Saying “no” allows you to invest in options aligned with your values and needs.
If you are deeply feeling the need but are unsure about saying “no”, maybe asking your-Self these questions can help:
✨ Will this add value to my life?
✨ Is this aligned with my values?
✨ Do I want to do this?
✨ Am I about to say yes, only because I am scared of saying no?
✨ Or maybe because I am afraid I will miss on something?
By saying “no” you will regain the power you need to take care of your-Self. You will strengthen your ego, and in doing so, you will develop your unique personality, which your will is ready to protect ⭐️
When you choose to be of service without denying your own needs, you step away from the victim role, a role that inhibits you from learning and growing, and become a bridge for everything that is good in the world.
It is ok to say “no”. By respecting your truth you are respecting your-Self.
If service is your purpose, remember: every path of service begins with oneself. Saying “yes” to what sparkles your joy and “no” when you feel something is not right for you, strengthens your identity.
The more you care for yourself, the more you will be able to learn, grow, and care for others.
May you choose your-Self first.
~ L, 🙏🏻