Updated: Oct 6, 2020
Don’t wait for someone else to seek closure ~
Letting go of someone or something that was once important for you can be difficult, especially if you are waiting for answers while seeking closure.
Whenever we experience loss: someone we love, our job, our home, a pet... we experience an ending that can be very painful.
It’s not fair for us to add to that pain expectations about someone else’s behaviour.
There’s nothing in your healing process that depends on someone else. Don’t give your power away by believing you need anyone in any way to heal.
Just like every chapter offers closure, your mind might seek closure for your broken heart, before it can move on and regain strength.
Sometimes you won’t get the answers you need from that someone, so you'll have to find your own way to fill in the gaps, heal, and move on.
In life, you will meet people who will not validate the pain they caused you, who will not offer an apology, and who will not admit they did something wrong. Instead, they will project blame onto you, divert so you think you did something, so you feel like you are the one at fault.
It’s sad when you find a way to express what made you upset, explaining things with utmost respect, and instead of receiving a heart-felt apology and a hug, you end up feeling bad about it and regretting saying anything at all.
I feel you.
You meet these people so you can learn about your worth, when to keep your distance, and how to keep your-Self safe.
At some point, answers or not, you have to let go of the painful experience to be able to move forward.
You can have unconditional love for someone and at the same time deny them unconditional access to you.
It is ok, sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows ❤️
Maybe the closure you look for will arrive two years from now, any given Thursday, while sitting at a coffee shop waiting for your latte, in a way you can’t believe, so different to how you expected it to happen. Maybe you will cry a little, or you will laugh a little... and you will exhale, deeply.
You will feel free.
Trust your inner guidance ✨✨✨
I’m here for you.
~ Luciana, xx.