Your body is constantly self-regulating itself through a process called “homeostasis”, which helps you maintain stability while adjusting to conditions that it considers best for your survival.
Homeostasis is the baseline that you go back to whenever you interact with the world around you. This baseline is where you feel safe, stable, your comfort zone.
When you experience trauma, your body becomes dysregulated. If the traumatic experience is not integrated, and your body stays dysregulated for a sustained period of time, it becomes your new baseline.
This happens because as a result of a traumatic experience, your nervous system keeps being stimulated as if the traumatic event were still happening; so your body learns that the new, heightened state, is the new baseline because that is the place where it is spending the most time.
When you step into relational space from the parts of your-Self that you have healed or are aware of, you can offer a safe space where to share in a rhythmical way, were you can speak and listen, support and feel supported, synchronically.
When you try doing so from those parts that as a result of trauma feel numb or hyperactivated, the natural flow gets disrupted, and you are not able to participate in relational space anymore.
Because deep down we are all seeking to heal, when you do the trauma healing work needed to integrate the past, you are able to challenge your comfort zone and open space to reset your baseline, so you can stand in a different position: one of truth and mutual understanding.
This is how you change the world around you.
Because we are all intertwined, when you heal, we all heal ✨.
That is why we all need you.
I am here for you.
~ L, xx.